Imagine a normal day for you. How many people do you come in contact with? At home, in the workplace, in the community? You are having an effect on every one of those people. Is it the effect you want?
What you do or say creates a Ripple Effect that reaches far beyond the immediate response. The Ripple Effect refers to the effect you have on people and things around you, and the flow on effect from that. Imagine a pebble being dropped into a pond. The effect of the pebble dropping creates the effect of concentric ripples on the water.
Stop and think about the ripples you create in a day. For example, if a mother takes her child to sports practice there are a series of events, feelings and possibilities that flow on from that. Mum could meet a person who can potentially have a very positive impact on her life, she feels good about being involved with the child’s interests, and the child feels loved and supported. On the flipside, inaction is also an action. If this mother didn’t go to sports practice the ripple effect would undoubtedly be different.
Neither is right or wrong, good or bad. The reality is, for everything we do, there is always an effect.
How aware are you?
Imagine your day again. What effect are you having on yourself and the people around you? Most people don’t consciously think about this, however, the fact is our success is shown in our results. Is there any part of your day where you would like a better result?
In order to be the best you can possibly be, and achieve great results, you need to be aware of how you affect everything around you and what effect this in turn induces. The starting point is always with you. The phrase, get the inside right and the outside will follow is very true.
Think of a person who you think has achieved great results. What’s the difference between you and them? Very little I suspect. The common thread amongst people I have worked with over the years is, the difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little bit extra. People who create extraordinary results are fundamentally no different from you or I. They have simply taken the initiative to gain extra empowering knowledge and habits that help them create extraordinary results.
Here are three simple suggestions to help you create extraordinary results:
1. Get the inside right. Learn about yourself. Why do you react in certain ways? What patterns are directing your behaviours? Learn how you can change less empowering reactions.
The biggest benefit to learning about yourself is that you improve your self-esteem as you start experiencing positive results, and the secondary benefit is you begin to notice other people react to you differently. You may have heard the phrase ‘In order for others to change, first I must change’. It’s very true. You can’t control anything other than yourself. People are going to react how they react. Work on changing yourself and you will get a different reaction.
2. Invest in yourself. Get a great coach. I’ve worked with several coaches over the years because I am fully aware that I know what I know, so to learn new things, I need to learn from others. A great coach will hold you to your highest standard at all times. Sometimes this is not comfortable however discomfort indicates you are entering new zones of learning. I would not have achieved the results I have today as quickly as I have without learning from others and allowing myself to be coached.
3. Become an active learner. If you want different results, take different actions. Put new learning into action. How can you truly know something if you haven’t experienced it? Most people don’t act on what they learn – this simple point can be the little bit extra that makes the difference for you.
The key to extraordinary results
Take responsibility for your results. Our success in everyday situations is given to us immediately in the reactions of others. Take note of the reactions. If they are not what you want, ask yourself how you could handle that differently to get a different result.
There is a technique used in Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) called Self Editing. This technique helps you re-imagine your day, assess the results and ‘edit’ the things you would like to have handled better. The purpose of a process like this is to create a new option for your subconscious mind next time this situation occurs.
We are powerful. We create our reality with our thoughts and actions. Until we learn how to consciously recognise our patterns (mental, emotional, behavioural and linguistic) we are helpless to change them so they serve us.
The most important person we can affect is ourselves. What effect are you having?
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