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The countdown to the end of the year is on... we've got 3 months to 2013...

What would you like to achieve in the last quarter of 2012 {tag_recipientfirstname}?

If we look at it this way... we've got 3 opportunities for 30-day 'Tude Challenges between now and then.  What are the three things you'd like to tick of your goal getting list?

Now is a great time to review last years new years resolutions and choose 1, 2 or 3 things you'd really like to tick off your list by 31 December 2012.

Our 30-Day 'Tude E-coaching programme is normally $69.00.  You can choose to do that and/or join in with us on Facebook for a more casual interactive approach where we'll be helping you out with tips and ideas on how to achieve your goal just because we want to!

Here's how it works...

1. Decide a goal you'd like to get - it doesn't matter how big or small.
2. Like our page on Facebook and share your goal with us.
3. We'll give you tips and ideas on how to achieve it in 30 days.
4. Ask questions, share thoughts, help others, celebrate wins along the way.

Post a comment, thought, suggestion or question on our Facebook page and you'll go in the monthly draw to win a surprise gift.

"Success is reaching your goals while enjoying every step of the way." – Susan Jeffers

Are you the "I will be happy when…" person?

Do you feel that you must buy the house of your dreams or make your first million and then you'll be happy?

Don’t put your happiness on hold until you reach a major goal!  Instead, I invite you to allow happiness to be part of the process of achieving you goals.

Dream big, pursue your dreams, and while at it take some to celebrate each small success along the way.  Afterall, a big goal is made up of many mini goals.  Celebrating those small achievements, whether they be daily or weekly (or whenever they happen) will help keep your motivated to do what it takes to reach your big goal.

You owe it to yourself to enjoy every step you take along the ladder of success. I couldn't think of a better company you can take along this exciting journey than a positive ‘Tude and a list of rewards to help you celebrate your progress and make your goal getting fun and rewarding.

You deserve to treat yourself... make a list of 10 ways you can reward yourself for mini goals while achieving your big goal, then get to it!  We'd love to hear your thoughts for mini rewards on our Facebook page.  Each month we're going to reward one of our 'Tude fans with a surprise gift, simply for sharing a thought, a 'Tude, a suggestion or goal on our page.  Join us n spreading the inspiration.

Well it is February already and how are you going with your New Year's goals? If you didn't set any at the beginning of the year there is no reason why you can't start setting some new goals today. 

Keeping on track with your goals can be challenging. I have found the following things work well.  Even though some of them you do at the beginning of your goal setting process - its helps to review them periodically. 

1. Get really clear on your goal - it needs to be clear enough for you to be able to explain it to someone else so they understand what you are going to achieve.

2. Work systematically - yes attaining goals requires constant attention and every little bit counts. 

3. Notice what is holding you back - identify limiting beliefs, behaviours and patterns and change them to more empowering ones.

4. Learn new information and skills - identify what else you need to learn to reach your goals, then research where to find that information. 

5. Have a sounding board for your ideas - choose a friend or your partner to bounce your ideas off. They may have a useful perspective you haven't though about. They may also be able to give you feedback to help you unblock areas where you might be stuck.

6. Acknowledge your success - there's no need to wait until you have achieved the big goal - notice what you are achieving daily to help you reach it and stay motivated. 

7. Be accountable and honest about how dedicated you are to your goal and taking the actions daily - if you are not completely inspired by the idea, write down what inspires you about it - list at least 10 big things that really excite you. 

8. Take regular action - small steps regularly are easier then large leaps infrequently. 

Have a great week reviewing your goals and perhaps even setting some new ones.   

100% personal responsibility, 100% of the time Wow! Big call–yes, yet such a simple concept.  The beauty is almost all humans have the ability to take 100% responsibility for themselves 100% of the time.  

Whether you are a pauper on the streets or a wealthy aristocrat, or anyone in between you have the power to choose 100% responsibility for yourself and have some influence on how your life happens.  No person has more of an advantage than another person.

What is 100% responsibility?
What I am referring to here is your ability, in fact your choice, to take responsibility for how you think about things and the attitudes you choose.

Imagine how free you can feel when you take 100% responsibility for all of your choices and decisions.  This is the key to personal freedom.  When you know in your heart you are responsible for yourself on all levels, you can tap into a feeling of internal freedom that no one can take from you.  When you commit to 100% responsibility 100% of the time you will experience a much less stressful life.  From this place, you can manifest what you want in life more easily.  Life becomes more in flow, easy, fluid.

I remember why I started my first business, many years ago.  At the time I was working for a large corporate.  I had worked for several companies and different bosses, and didn’t enjoy the rigid structures I had to work within.  I felt that most of my results were out of my control because of the boundaries I had to work within.  Unfortunately I had the experience of working for a boss who enjoyed taking credit for what others did well and chastising them for anything that didn’t.  I decided that I wanted to take personal responsibility for my results – good or otherwise.  I started a marketing consultancy company and never looked back.  Today I can’t imagine working for someone else.  I love the freedom of being able to take 100% responsibility for my results no matter what they are.

The same applies in our personal lives.  When you decide to take 100% responsibility for who you are, where you want to go and your actions you experience a beautiful sense of personal freedom.  There is no blame, because you have chosen a particular thought, action or decision.  The people who experience life the most are those who take responsibility and learn the lessons as they walk through life, versus the people who choose to blame external influences for the hand they are dealt.  The latter group miss the lessons and miss out on some of the gems in life.

Nobody else can make this choice for you
Thoughts and attitudes are internal processes therefore you are the only person who can choose them.  Alternatively, you can choose to allow others to influence you.  Again, that is your choice.

It is futile to waste time and energy on blaming others for your situation and results.  You are where you are in life because of all of the choices you have made up to this moment.

As discussed in Chapter 3 of the book 'Attitude, Aptitude, Altitude—Choose your 'Tude!' you cannot not make a choice.  Choosing to do nothing is still making a choice.  Choosing to live life at the peril of external forces, blaming your situation on other things or people outside yourself is a choice.

Some people appear to have a charmed life where everything happens as they intend it.  Some call this lucky.  However it is in fact their choice.  They have chosen positive intentions, thoughts and actions, which result in creating what they want.  These people are not attached to a rigid outcome because they know they will create a positive result.  If their result is not 100% exactly as they imagined it to be, it will be close and therefore they can relax and enjoy the outcome.

Whether you are aware of it or not, you ultimately take 100% responsibility for your choices 100% of the time because your results are determined by your choices, subconsciously or consciously.  You are the product of your choices.  As such you have to live with your self as you have created it through the choices you have made.

Affirmations:
I am grateful for the strength, courage and openness to live my desired life
I receive everything I deserve graciously and easily
I take 100% responsibility for my thoughts, beliefs, words and actions
I am open to my full potential on all levels

Can you think of some of your own?

A funny thing occurred to me the other day while preparing to go to New Zealand.  Life is like a flight – you get fueled up and ready to go, and when you’re ready, you take off, soaring to incredible heights.  You eventually land in a new place, new space and new adventure.  And the great news is you’re able to do it again and again, simply decide where you want to go and take off!

That's exactly what happens with our goals... we decide what we want, get ready and head off in that direction.  We learn more with every step and we take our selves to places we've never been to before, experiencing things that are new, challenging and exciting.  When we land we are in a different place because of the learning we have had.  And when we're ready, we can choose our next goal.

So where are you heading?  What's your next goal?  What's your next adventure?

Please fasten your seat belt and put your tray table away… we're ready for take off.  Join Robyn Simpson at the 30-Day 'Tude Challenge on Face Book - it's complementary and a huge amount of fun and inspiration!

• They are not always true, they often seem real because they have been with us for some time.
• They can be changed to an empowering belief.
• They can run our lives without us being aware of them if we don't take the time to work with them.
• They are a personal thing, what seems important to me may be totally irrelevant or insignificant to you.

1. Identify your limiting belief and state it clearly
2. Check whether it is useful in any way or any situation
3. If it's not useful, we can change it completely, if it is useful in some situations, we can keep it for those and change it for situations where it is limiting.
4. Notice whether the belief is still true for you.  Do you know when you decided to believe it?
   For some beliefs it is simply a matter of being aware that it is no longer true, and this allows you to let it go easily.

For deeper or more emotionally charged beliefs we recommend you do a Belief Change process with a qualified practitioner to ensure the process is completed safely and with ecology.

• I'm not good with money
• I'm not good at anything
• I'm not good at relationships
• Relationships never work out for me
• I'm not a good learner
• Nobody loves me
• I always come last
• I'm not popular
• I'm not a good person
• I'm a procrastinator
• I never finish anything
• I'm not wealthy
• I'm not confident
• And the list goes on...

Life is a journey made up of one step at a time.  Each step takes us in a direction that we have chosen, consciously or subconsciously.  Some steps happen quickly, some happen slowly, some are up hill, some are downhill. You may find yourself taking a left or a right turn, or perhaps moving straight ahead.  The key is to keep moving and enjoy every step.   

Life is not about the destination but the experiences along the way.

So Robyn, where are you heading

Author: Robyn Simpson from Choose The 'Tude!

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Imagine yourself on holiday… in an idyllic place or space, magically relaxing, doing only what you love. Imagine who is with you, the smells, sights and sounds. Pressures are eliminated. You can choose what ever you want to do at any given moment. Hear the laughter and music, smell the aromas of food and flora. Imagine the best holiday ever!

How often is your life like that? Is that something you want more of? If so, let’s look at how you can make that happen.

Assessing the gap
Look at your usual every day life. How different is it from the perfect holiday you’ve just imagined? Consider every aspect and on a scale of 1 – 10 assess each area of daily life against your ideal state of living you experience on holiday. For example, take laughter. How much laughter do you have in your daily life compared to your ideal life? Measure each on a scale so you can give it some perspective. If your ideal life has just the right amount of laughter – rate it as 10. Rate your daily laughter against that.

Continue this process with other areas that are important to you. For example, spending time with family, reading a magazine, doing new things, sitting and relaxing, or exploring...

Creating more
Now take a look at your list and ask yourself "How can I create this on a daily basis?” Brainstorm as many ways as possible for each area. Let ideas flow without judgment. Allow your subconscious mind to present ideas over the next day or two. Write them down. Go for at least 10 ways to achieve each one and make them compelling.

It is helpful to get in touch with the feeling of having the desired state while you do this exercise. If you can create the feeling you will be more creative and motivated to find ways to achieve it easily.

Busting blocks
Take the top five feelings or experiences and ask yourself "What prevents me having more of this in my everyday life?”

It is important to do this in a non-judgmental way. Be completely honest with yourself. No criticizing allowed. Check if what prevents you is an excuse. Remember the purpose of this exercise is to help you experience more of what you really want now.

For more information on blocks and how to bust them, check out www.choosethetude.com/Free/Articles.html and look up the Goals are Dreams with Deadlines articles.

Final step
Act as if you already have these things happening in your every day life. How would life be if you really did live in the moment, enjoying all the things you want and love right now? What would you be doing?

What have you been missing? Why save the good things for special occasions? Special occasions may not happen. Today is a special occasion for you to enjoy, so fill it with everything you enjoy. It’s your choice.

We are free to choose our experience daily. Since the conversation with my friend I have begun to choose to experience ‘now’ all the time.

I still have dreams for the future, and I sometimes look at the past. What’s important is that I know I’m choosing this and I can choose what’s good about now, now!

Simple techniques like this are very powerful. Life is meant to be simple. So what are you missing?

Final tip… A great way to start your day is to consciously choose your attitude so it starts off positively. Our ‘Smell the Roses’ range can help you get in the mood to relax and take time to appreciate the simple things in life and enjoy ‘now’. For inspiration in this area click here...

Author: Robyn Simpson from Choose The 'Tude!

 

Inspire 10 people to inspire 10 people... pass it on!